Having a friend, a boyfriend or a girlfriend is like no other job. Well, if you call it so. If you want to call it like that at all. Preferably, you are in a relationship just like your family, and you have to be there for them and take care of them. It sounds simple, but might be a lot difficult for many. That is why we have here simple to follow steps to get it done.
- Listening is a Great Skill
If you know why we have two ears and only one mouth, you will know that it is for a good reason. Listening skills are always the best ones for communication. If you don’t listen or listen without any intention to understand a person, there will be failures.
- The same stands true whether you are in your class where your professor is delivering a lecture or at home where your mom is telling you something to remember. In any of the cases, your girlfriend also needs your time and all you need to be doing is: listen to her.
- That is the first thing in a relationship because you are to be engaged in the conversation, there must be a two-way dialect for that purpose and not just a one-way talk going on.
- Many times you would find people just shouting or talking, but never trying to listen to the other person. It can be in an office scenario, in a group discussion or when you are with your partner. In all these cases, listening is a good skill to have and that is not to be left for granted.
- You cannot just think that she understands everything and you don’t need to pay any attention to her. If you think you know what she is saying, even then, you must listen to her, and give her the support.
- So, basically here is what you should do. Pay attention to what she says, if not always often and most of the time. Allow her to speak openly, clear her mind without any hesitation to you. Don’t let her shut up thinking that you would get irritated or something. Listen to her with the intent of understanding what she is saying, and not just for the sake of the argument.
- Make an Effort to Stay Relevant with Her Loved Ones
Someone who finds that you are not interested in any of her friend circle or do not like them at all is not going to be happy about it. If you are a good boyfriend, you must also care about his friends, family, and other things that mean to her. That only makes you better in her eyes and she loves you for that quality even more.
- This is nothing to be confused with flirting with her female friends or anything. It must not be confused with interfering with the lives of everyone in her family or something like that.
- It is just the basic principle of being concerned about things that concern her, trying to share some of her burden or worries sort of thing. You have to make an effort with her friends as well in this regard.
- Here are some tips regarding this step. Make sure you resolve any grievances that you have with her friends. If you don’t like someone, don’t be too open about it; just let her know about it honestly. Try to be good and well-mannered with her friend circle too, as she would love it.
- Show Interest in Her Interests
If you want to be a better guy for your girl, you have to show interest in her likings too. If she loves some movie or some kind of sport, try and make an effort to accompany her to those venues and events, even if you personally don’t want to participate or play those things.
- You don’t have to develop a taste for horror movies, but if she likes that, just accompany her whenever she likes to and that would be enough. In the same way, you can also find her accompanying you to your favorite sport, even if she never follows any of those things.
- It is called being there and loving something that your partner loves. Once she has left the place, you leave too. Meaning that your entire job was to stay because of her and not because of the sport or move itself. This is enough to show that you are taking an interest in her interests. Similar things can be said about her too, and all you need to do is, reciprocate it.
- Here is a small line to remember. Go with her to the places she likes. Engage in conversations she would like to have with you. Not everything would be great, but you both can sort them out eventually.
- Grooming up a Bit More
You need to take proper care of yourself, as in, your appearance. Your girl will love you more if you look handsome and dashing. But, even if you are not all that pretty and hunk, you can still be well-groomed.
- All girls love this single thing about their partners, that is, they stay clean and hygienic all the time.
- With grooming and styling, is just a part of the attraction, and if she likes you to stay a bit more polished, why not make her love you even more by spending like 30 minutes more on yourself.
- After all, she spends like 5 hours just for you, so isn’t being normal for you to spend like 10% of that time. This is not a big deal for anyone unless there are strong reasons to not do so.
- However, if you have a nice girlfriend, she is never going to ask you to look like someone else from a movie or something. She will like you with hair, without hair and small hair and big hair.
- Make the girl feel very special
It is a given that women love to be treated well. They love to get all the importance that they deserve. So, treat the woman in your life no less than a princess. She will love the attention she gets and will never ditch you. Some of the techniques that can be implemented by you to keep your girl happy are:
- Open the doors for her and pull a chair out for her to sit.
- Never look to split the date dinner bills, or even ask her to pay for it.
- Compliment her when she dresses up or wears makeup or does her hair in a different style. A woman loves to hear compliments about the way she looks.
- Let the girl know that she is always on your mind. This can be done by sending her early morning good morning text messages. Texting her and giving her a call or two in a day, even when you are busy will make her really happy.
- Girls love surprises
No matter you get her a very small gift like a candy bar or a rose; it will help your relationship go a long way. Girls love gifts and surprises and gifting them with things that they love will make them happy. Her love towards you will only increase.
- It is not a good idea to buy a gift just for the sake of gifting. Never make a last minute gift purchase. You need to give it a serious thought and buy gifts according to the situation.
- Talking to your girlfriend and finding out the things she loves and what she likes to receive in a polished manner without giving her a clue is a good idea to buy gifts that will instantly impress her.
- It is important that you never forget her birthday, holidays, and other important dates that are significant to both of you. Giving her surprise gifts on their special dates will mean a lot to her and keep her happy.
- Adding a personal touch or a custom design to the gifts will show how much you love her and how much you care for her.
- You should make sure to avoid giving repeated gifts.
- Make the best use of the time you spend with her
Once the relationship is established, most men like to watch movies on TV with their girlfriends or take them out for dinners. Well, making this a routine is sure to bore her. The precious free time that you get with your girl needs to be spent in a meaningful manner and not behind the four walls of your house. Some of the places where you can take your girlfriend are:
- Shopping at a mall
- A romantic one day trip
- Adventure sports
- Leisure activities
Trying new things is sure to excite both of you and will even help in deepening your relationship. It can also spice up your monotonous love life.
- Sharing the housework
If your partner is in a live-in relationship with you, then sharing the household chores is sure to impress her.
- It is the duty of you and your girl to keep the home and surroundings neat and clean. This is where you are spending most of your time.
- Shouldering your girl’s housework burden and giving her the necessary support to do the household chores will make her feel doubly happy. She will have a special place in her heart for you.
- Asking her regularly as to what help can be done from your side to finish the household chores fast is always a wise decision.
- Show her that you are a trustworthy person
- It is very important to keep the promises given to your girlfriend. Put the promises on the top of the priority list and try to achieve as many promises as possible.
- If, at all, you are not able to keep your promise, be sure to ask for forgiveness and give the valid reason as to why you were not able to do it in time.
- Show that you are a responsible person by being studious and responsible at what you do, be it study or work.
- You should tell her the only truth about major issues and never cover it up with lies. A few white lies are okay, but major lies lead to distrust and doubts.
- Be very open to your girlfriend and show your trust to her. Once you do that, she is going to trust you back.
- Never ever create the impression that you are flirting with other girls. Maintain a good phone and online etiquette and never do things on your phone or computer in a suspicious manner.
- Letting your girlfriend know who your contacts are on Facebook and other social networks and communicating with them in her presence will increase her trust in you.
- Give importance to her interests
- If your girlfriend has a hobby or a passion for something that you have not given due importance, then, it is time you changed that notion.
- You should be the one to boost her esteem and confidence and this can be achieved by showing interest in her interests.
- She will surely feel elated hearing some positive things from you about her work.
It is very important that respect for each other and their work are very important to sustain a relationship for long. Treating her the right way and having a good communication with the girlfriend helps in maintaining a solid relationship. By following the above tips and ideas, you can easily make your girlfriend happy.
So, just stay well groomed, communicate by listening to her and stay well-behaved with her friends and family.