Not every relationship is built to last, but not all breakups are meant to be final, either. Sometimes two people need to spend some time apart before they realize that they belong together. If you and your partner find yourselves regretting your split, consider these tips for mending the relationship.
Make sure that you are both on the same page about getting back together
- Be sure that both parties have had time to make a clear and level headed decision about trying to repair the relationship. Emotions can be running high after a breakup, and they can influence your decision making.
- Have an open discussion about the things that caused issues in the relationship, and discuss how changes will be made to avoid them from happening again. Remember, this is not a one way street, and as partners, you will both need to make changes for the repair to have a real chance.
- Make sure that both people are willing to commit equal effort to repairing the relationship. It won’t work if only one person is trying, nor will it work if one person wants to get back together and the other is not sure.
Apologies for past indiscretions go a long way
- It is never too late to offer an apology for how you treated the other person in the past, or for a lack of effort in maintaining the relationship.
- Remember that even though you may be ready to offer an apology, the other person might need more time before they are ready to accept it. This is okay. An apology should only be made because it comes from the heart, and not as a means to an end such as gaining someone’s trust, or hoping that your apology will make them want to get back together.
- An insincere apology is a waste of breath and words.
Take things slow when getting back together
- No matter how long the relationship was before the breakup, no matter how well the two of you know one another, it is important to take things slowly when mending the relationship.
- It may feel easy to fall back into old routines, but remember that not all of the old routines worked for you the first time.
- Take time to get to trust and know one another all over again. Appreciate each small moment, especially the ones that you may have glossed over the first time.
Avoid the “on again, off again” cycle
- If you decide to get back together, make sure that you are both ready to commit fully to what that means.
- Don’t go into it thinking that if it doesn’t work you can just break up and try again. This brings negativity to the situation that doesn’t need to be there.
- Falling into a cycle of breaking up and getting back together is not healthy. It diminishes the meaning of the relationship if you are just willing to throw it away when things get hard.
- If this is how you feel, seriously reconsider if repairing the relationship is the right thing to do.
Don’t rely too much on outside opinions
- The only opinions that truly matter when it comes to repairing the relationship, are the opinions of the people in the relationship.
- You may want to talk to your friends and family about your attempt to repair your relationship, however keep in mind that they may not always respond favorably, especially if they were in your life when the relationship failed the first time.
- Remember that they are there to support you, but that ultimately the only people who can determine the success of the repair are the people involved in the relationship.
How do you rebuild a relationship after a break up?
- Acknowledge there’s a rebuilding phase. Recognize that you need time to regroup and focus on you.
- Create someplace safe to explore.
- Commit to relying on yourself.
- Get the help you need to heal and move forward.
- Identify your trusted support network.
- Develop a daily practice.
- Trust the process.
Can a relationship be stronger after a breakup?
Do couples get back together after a breakup?
How long do feelings last after a breakup?
Who hurts more after a breakup?
How do you know he still loves you after a breakup?
Do guys regret losing a good girl?
He tries to make you jealous. He reaches out even though you said no contact. He calls you when he’s drunk and makes emotional confessions to you. He shows strong emotions when it comes to you.
Who moves on faster after a breakup?
Do exes realize what they lost?
Will he regret ending things?
How long does it take for a man to regret losing you?
How do you know if your ex regrets losing you?
Do men regret cheating?
Do cheaters cheat again?
- Is he quieter than usual because he regrets losing you.
- He could turn into bit of a stalker.
- He could be suffering from dumpers remorse.
- He could want you back in his life.