Telling a girl you like her can be one of the most difficult things to do. Here are some tips on how to do it and get the right result.
Just say it
Sometimes, nothing beats blunt honesty. You may be wondering what her reaction will be and whether she will even speak to you again if you express how you feel. But if you have spent some time in the presence of a girl you like and she shows signs that she is receptive, it might be worth it to just come out and state how you feel. She may already have started harboring feelings and may be waiting for you to speak your mind. Besides, being bold could be something that she is attracted to.
If you are not the type to be blunt or if you can’t bring yourself to just say it, read on.
How to tell a girl you like her if you are already friends
If you already have a friendship going with a girl and realize you like her, you may want to do it in a subtle way. That way, you don’t end up ruining the friendship.
Express how much you enjoy her company
Letting her know how much you value spending time with her sends a hint that you want more of her time. Say, “You know, I really enjoyed the time spent with you today.” Or “I always look forward to talking to you because you are such good company.” Or “There is literally no one I like talking to more than you.”
Her reaction will let you know if she is secretly into you as well. Watch her body language and listen to her response to determine if it is safe to proceed in declaring how you feel. If she is less than enthusiastic, you may want to take a step back. You can continue being her friend and then try again sometime in the future if you still feel there is a chance she might be receptive.
Show her you care about her well-being
Ask about her day, whether she has eaten, or if she wants your help with something she is doing. These are a few examples of ways to subtly tell a girl you like her. If there are other guys trying to get close to her, you may stand out in her mind. That’s because you happen to be more attentive to her needs.
Pay attention to the things she says in passing so you can act on them later. For instance, if she mentions a piece of jewelry she likes while passing a store, make a note and then get it for her (if you can afford it) on her birthday. The fact that you remembered will not be lost on her, even if she acts oblivious.
The more ways you show her that you that you care, the more she will warm up to you, which will make it easier to say what’s really on your mind. She may even come out and state her feelings first.
Give her compliments
Women love being complimented, especially if they are insecure about certain parts of their body. The trick is to be sincere. Don’t just say “you look nice” or “your dress is pretty.” Put some effort into your compliments, such as:
- “That dress really brings out the color of your eyes”
- “I love your choice of earrings; they go great with your skin tone”
- “Wow, you are really rocking that outfit”
These and other honest compliments will make her feel beautiful and she will start looking forward to getting them from you. In time, she will be making an effort to look good for you and it should be easier for you to express how you feel. However, you want to be careful that you don’t overdo giving compliments or come across insincere.
How to tell a girl you like her if you are not yet friends
If you have just met a girl and want to let her know you like her, you may need to do more than just say it. Some things you can do include:
- Talk to her
You need to get to know her first by asking questions and striking up interesting conversations. Being willing to speak with her shows you are interested in learning about her and that you at least want to be friends.
- Get familiar with her social circle
A girl’s friends and social groups are often quite important to her. If you make an effort to hang out with her and friends or support causes that she is involved in, she will appreciate it. This is an opportunity to get to know her even more as well.
- Ask her out on a date
This is a good move, whether you are already friends or just getting to know a girl. But don’t make a big deal out of it. Ask if she wants to grab a bite at a new restaurant you heard about or tell her you have tickets for a movie/game and if she would like to come.
How to tell a girl you like her over text
While not the most desirable option, there are several reasons you may want to express your feelings over a text message. Whatever the case, it may just work but only if you do it the right way. Try the following:
- Start with a casual conversation.
- Find out topics that interest her.
- If you flirt, do it mildly and only when appropriate.
- Use suitable emojis.
- Be responsive.
- Inject some humor in your messages.