Just because you are at the point where you no longer feel that the relationship is working, it doesn’t mean that you are looking to break hearts or hurt feelings. Here are a few tips to take into consideration when breaking up with your girlfriend for things to go as smoothly as possible.
- Being open and honest with her and with yourself is the best way to begin any conversation.
- Don’t try to sugarcoat the fact that the relationship is ending by talking about anything other than what you are feeling and why you need to end things.
- Being honest also means ending things as soon as you recognize that things aren’t working out. The moment the little things start to annoy you, or you feel yourself becoming aggravated with all of her habits and quirks, is the moment that you should start to prepare for the breakup.
Don’t go looking to place blame on either of you
- Accept the fact that sometimes things aren’t your fault or her fault or the fault of your circumstances or anything at all. Sometimes, things just aren’t meant to work out, and no one and nothing is to blame.
- Trying to point the finger or place blame on her will only make everything hurt more for both of you.
- Keeping things civil and as clean-cut as possible is the best way to go about a breakup. Arguing and blaming is a waste of time and will only serve to rile up both of your emotions.
Don’t be vague or offer any false hope about getting back together
- Avoid using words like “maybe” and “someday” or “if you would have…” as this will only give her false hope that things can be repaired.
- Even if you feel like you might be able to try again, you both need to take some time apart to decide if that is the best course.
- Talking about “maybe” getting back together when you’re in the middle of breaking up sends confusing mixed signals. Again, it is best to be clear, open and honest.
Treat her with respect even though the relationship is ending
- Even if she has hurt you or vice versa, giving her respect through the breakup is the right thing to do. Remember, even though it’s not working out now, this person played a big role in your life and as such, they should be treated with respect.
- Being respectful entails being considerate of her emotions and reactions. She may have questions. If possible, answer them calmly, respectfully and truthfully.
Breakup with her in person
- Although it might be unpleasant, an in-person breakup will tell her that you took the relationship seriously and that you take ending it seriously as well.
- A public place is not the best location for a breakup. She will likely have an emotional response, and you may also become emotional, and having a crowd of strangers for an audience will only make it worse for both of you.
- Going to her home is likely the best option, as you will be able to leave when you want or need to, and she will not have to drive anywhere upset.
How do I break up with my girlfriend without hurting her?
- Think over what you want and why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision.
- Think about what you’ll say and how the other person might react.
- Have good intentions.
- Be honest — but not brutal.
- Say it in person.
- If it helps, confide in someone you trust.
How do I break up with my gently relationship?
When should you break up with your girlfriend?
How do you break up with your girlfriend without hurting her over text?
- Understand why you want to break up with her in the first place.
- Accept that she’s going to lose some respect for you.
- Clearly communicate why you want to break up.
- Go no-contact for your sake and hers.
- Why breaking up over text can be good.
- To recap.
What are the signs when a relationship is over?
One of the key signs your relationship is ending is that you are no longer vulnerable and open with your partner. A cornerstone of happy, healthy relationships is that both partners feel comfortable being truly open to sharing thoughts and opinions with one another.
How do I know it’s time to break up?
What is a toxic relationship?
Why are guys afraid to break up?
Will I regret ending my relationship?
Is it OK to break up with someone you love?
When should you let go of a relationship?
How can I save my relationship?
- Plan a weekly ‘couples meeting’
- Learn to compromise.
- Spend time with friends outside of your relationship.
- Engage in affectionate physical contact.
- Don’t be hooked on romance.