Do you want to know how you can be happy, there are certain rules to be happy that you need to follow? You can choose your happiness and this is true, all that you need to know is how to choose happiness and how to become happy.

  1. Don’t Try to Find Happiness in External Things

When we start searching happiness on external things we get into more problems. Most of us are dependents on our relationships to find happiness; we look for happiness in our job, financial stability and many such things. But, true happiness is beyond that. Recalibrate your expectations and bring it to zero.

  • Don’t expect anything from people who are related to you directly or indirectly. We feel hurt the most when someone doesn’t fulfill our expectations. When we will not expect anything from people close to us, we won’t face any trouble.
  • We can claim happiness coming from inside when we receive happiness from our efforts, what we get is true happiness.
  • It is not easy to cut off self from expectation, but once it’s done, we will start enjoying this and will stop expecting.
  1. Avoid Negative Thinking

Life is short, we have heard this from so many people and from the year, and in reality, also, it is too short to think about sadness and pain that we have in our life. Instead of thinking about all negative things, think about all positive things leaving all your worries. You should not take everything in your life too seriously. For e.g., if you are not getting a good job after your graduation, don’t worry!

  • You will get something good when the time will come, nothing will change if you are going to think about the same thing again and again.
  • Indulge yourself in some new and innovative activities.
  • If you feel hurt because someone’s word, don’t take it too seriously. Talk to the person and sort out the issue.
  • There is a child in each one of us and we should let this child enjoy everything around us without any restrictions.
  • Ego and anger are two things that you should always avoid as this brings seriousness in life. Moreover, it is not going to give a fun-filled life anyways, if you are going to keep your ego at first everywhere.
  1. Give Something in Free

When you want happiness, you have to spread happiness this is the law of attraction. You get what you spread so start sharing everything you have.

  • Start appreciating people for their efforts and work they do.
  • Show your gratitude towards people who love you and who care for you.
  • Show empathy and sympathy towards people, according to the situation.
  • The law of attraction says you get what you spread. So, if you are spreading kindness and happiness around, you will get the same in return, which will increase your happiness manifold.
  1. Accept Freely

Sharing gives lots of happiness and this happiness stays forever. If you have not experienced it, then try it. Share what you have with you and accept things in return. Accept compliments, gifts, and help.

  • Accepting things is also an art. You should accept what is coming to you freely and with an open heart.
  • Welcome things what you are getting with a big smile and hands open. You will feel delighted and fulfill from inside.
  1. Appreciate Innocence

Don’t be so busy in understanding, analyzing and interpreting things. It will not give you the pleasure that you want from life. Instead, appreciate the innocence play with children, look around nature the cuteness, it has, look around everything around you and appreciate what you find good.

  • When you appreciate people, you spread positive energy and get the same in return. This will increase your happiness manifolds.
  • Have you ever seen the little bird sitting on your window panel how cute it looks? If you have not witnessed this beauty of nature before, try it once and you will fall in love with it.
  • Look at your child how innocently they laugh when they do some silly activity, if you analyze, understand and interpret this activity, you won’t be able to enjoy its real beauty. Observe the love and cuteness, it has and enjoy the happiness which is eternal.
  • Look at the elderly couple walking hand in hand, how cute their loving looks.  Appreciate that moment instead of analyzing it; you will get happiness, which is eternal.
  1. Play Childhood Games

It is true that you are now an adult person and you don’t like silly childhood games. You want to play a more mature and intellectual game, which can increase your creativity and work potential.

  • When you are playing in a park with children enjoy the moment, don’t hesitate or be conscious. Instead of that, play freely and just like a child enjoy every moment.
  • If you want to enjoy happiness, which is never ending and that comes without any terms and conditions play with your children whenever you get time. Give them surprises, let them laugh hard and you won’t be able to resist yourself laughing hard with them. These are some moments which will make your life full of pleasure.
  • There is no bigger happiness than watching your child playing freely.
  1. Enjoy Every Moment and Everything Around You

You can be happy within only when you will start enjoying everything around you. There is a pleasure in everything; the only difference is how you are taking it. For e.g. when there is food in your plate, you can eat it without any appreciation or sense of enjoyment. But, if you add a little input from your end, like wow this food is really great, it has a nice aroma, you will like this food better than before.

  • When you are going for an outing, start enjoying everything the company of your friend, nature, the mode of transports the clothes you are wearing etc.
  • Live every moment and absorb it completely, do not let any happy moment not bring a broad smile on your face.
  • Be clear and give your hundred percent to every task you are doing.
  • Notice how wonderful the feeling of sleeping on a soft bed is, feel your bed, feel things around you.
  1. Take Care of Yourself

Take care of your physical and mental health if you want to live a happy life. Surround yourself with people having positive thoughts and motivated.

  • Follow a good lifestyle and focus on fitness to achieve a good fitness goal.
  • A happy mind resides in a healthy body, and it will keep your body healthy and you will always be happy.
  • Exercise daily and make new friends, this is the fundamental of having a happy and prosperous life.


These are the ways you can add happiness in your life. Meditation will help you in finding the right way of choosing happiness.